Dear primate this was the funniest thing I’ve ever read ever. Thanks for making my day.

Whatever. I don't need to be led, I can do that quite well by myself. Mind you, I like a guy who can make up his mind. But the minute he starts bossing me around, we've got problems. I don't believe in incest and you sure ain't my daddy.

Here's my experience. Almost without fail, the assholes I've dated expressed interest in me and pursued me. Have you ever been pursued by someone you found attractive? Flattering, isn't it? Frequently the assholes put their best face forward and never show you their ugly side in the beginning, too. They wait til you're emotionally hooked on them and then all hell breaks loose. And it is the ultimate mindfuck. Here you are crazy about the guy, and things were perfect a week ago and now all of a sudden he's treating you like shit and you can't figure out what you did wrong. Or, you *did* do something wrong and he's blown it all out of proportion. And the moment you start waking up and realizing he's being extreme, he turns on the Wounded Bird pity trip.

Some women have enough fortitude to walk away when the shit first starts. These are the ones slinging stones at other women, making fun of them because they didn't "just leave." But a lot of people are abused in this culture from childhood onwards and never learn about appropriate relationship behaviors, and women are certainly no different. And these assholes deliberately look for the women with emotional issues because those are easier targets.

Meanwhile the "nice guy" (if he really is nice–and some of them aren't, just quiet assholes) is over in the corner wishing the pretty girl would come talk to him. Again, which feels better to you–to be pursued by someone you find interesting, or to have to go chase them down?

If you want someone to pick you over the asshole, you have to prove you're interested in her–and I don't mean declare your love for her on day one. The asshole doesn't usually do that. Learn how to engage in small talk. Take the time to find out more about her. And for pity's sake, nobody likes to be blatantly, openly worshiped. It feels creepy and icky. Treat her like a human being. That's all any of us ever really want anyway unless there's something wrong with us–and hey, if she's crazy, why are you chasing her?

I'm going to agree with MissChievousRN and say that it is more about leadership an dominance than it is about the spiking of emotions for the sake of the spiking of emotions. It is his leadership that causes her to become more coy and demure around him. Agreeableness is arguably in diametric opposition with leadership.

I grew up the goody goody straight a girl who dated the bad boys… it took me years to realize it wasnt the badness or the drama that i was attracted to, it was the implied strength and dominance… bad boys appear to stand out and be dominant over others, they appear to be powerful and unique and thus good mates… of course, in reality, this is rarely the case, but once you recognize the REAL reason you are attracted to the "drama", then you can seek that power and mating value in a healthier relationship that is just as exciting and satisfying

The Principle of Least Interest: Inequality in Emotional Involvement in Romantic Relationships